“It’s okay, he’s a boy,” is a commonly spoken phrase in our household in regards to our son, Yadier. My wife and I subscribe to the belief that it’s good for boys to act like boys. One evening my wife and I saw Yadi drinking water directly from a drainage pipe here in the parking lot of the church, and while it briefly crossed our mind to stop him we just thought, “It’s okay, he’s a boy.” Whether it’s jumping head first over the back of the couch, having fight time with dad, eating rocks, or body slamming his sister Charlie into the ground, my son is all about boy things. Now lest you think we are awful parents, we are aggressive in our discipline. We do get on him for bad behavior. However, while teaching him about respect and discipline, we don’t want to stymie his burgeoning masculinity at the same time. We want him to be all boy, because in the future his family, his church, and his country are going to need him to be the man God created him to be.
In Paul’s final instructions to the church in Corinth in 1 Corinthians 16:13-14, he says, “Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.” Paul tells these men in the Corinthian church to act like the men that God intended for them to be. What does biblical manhood entail? It involves being watchful and standing firm in the faith. This means that men need to be prepared and ready to take action and to defend those entities that were entrusted to be under their care, namely their families and their churches. Godly men watch out for anyone or anything that would threaten their own brides, as well as the bride of Christ. They stand firm in biblically grounded and tested faith. They don’t deviate from that which God has called them to do.
Biblical manhood also involves being strong. Paul isn’t so much talking about physical strength here, as he is about strength in will and conviction. Godly men remain true and committed to their families, their churches, and to the Bible above all else, whatever challenges might come. Finally, everything godly men do is done in love. They are full of compassion and mercy for those in their care. They commit to unconditionally loving and serving those around them.
These are the type of men that are desperately needed in our world today. We need our boys to grow up to be the men God intended for them to be, so that they can be all that our families, churches, and our nation need them to be. June is the month we celebrate our fathers, and it’s also an opportune time to celebrate the men in our church who have accepted the responsibility of being the godly leaders God intended. Mililani Baptist Church is blessed to have so many strong men leading out in various ministries here. These men serve as deacons, Sunday School teachers, and as youth and children’s leaders. They help lead in worship, feed and minister to the homeless, go out on visitation, make hospital visits, and fix things that need to be fixed. Most importantly, they share the Gospel, pray fervently for the body, equip the saints for service, and bring glory to God in all that they do. Make sure you take the time this month to thank the godly husbands, fathers, and men in your church for acting like the men Paul had in mind when he wrote these words to the church in Corinth.